Many people feel that they lose friends after a divorce. They think their friends either “chose” one partner or feel that the friendship disappeared during the divorce process. These feelings can create awkward situations. People often avoid awkward situations, so if you want to have any chance of maintaining those friendships, you will have to [...]
Whether or not you like Valentine’s Day, it’s a hard “holiday” to ignore. We are inundated with ads about romance and material expressions of love, including chocolate and jewelry. If you find yourself dreading the day now that you are divorced, here are some tips: • Check in with yourself. Be honest with yourself about [...]
I’ve seen many couples enter couples therapy as a last ditch effort to save their marriage. These efforts rarely succeed, not because the couples lack the right intent, but because the structure and process of couples therapy isn’t designed to answer their primary question: Do I want to be in this marriage at all? For [...]
If you are like most people, then your resolve to fulfill your resolutions starts to decrease by the 3rd week of January. Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Then take advice from literature on relapse prevention regarding steps you can take to get back on track with your goals. Everyone gets derailed, [...]
People going through divorce experience strong emotions. Among other things, they may feel angry, hurt, disappointed and scared. These feelings are normal and a natural part of mourning the loss of a marriage and the future you imagined. While it’s completely normal to feel these emotions, it’s important that you don’t allow them to overwhelm you. [...]
The New Year is a time to evaluate our lives and set new goals. It’s like those school notebooks in September: a fresh clean start where anything is possible. And yet, this process of starting over can be enormously frustrating. How often do we make New Year’s resolutions that fall by the wayside before the [...]
It’s as predictable as the ball dropping over Time Square: make a resolution to address the current problem area in our lives. Lose weight. Stop smoking. Shop less. We all view the new year as an opportunity to reinvent the less desirable aspects of ourselves. Unfortunately, for most people, making a resolution is the easy part. [...]
One thing that’s as familiar to the holiday season as Christmas carols and cold weather is the overwhelming crush of advertising. Ads for everything from clothes to jewelry to toys to cars confront us every time we turn our TV, open the newspaper or go online.As parents, the holidays are a challenging time as we [...]
The "graying of divorce" is a term that relates to the increase in divorces among people aged 50 and older. Compared to 20 years ago, people in this age group are now twice as likely to get a divorce and this group now comprises about 25% of all divorces. While many of these divorces are [...]
Substance abuse issues are extremely stressful to a relationship. Over time, trust is destroyed and often couples face financial hardship. Having a spouse with substance abuse issues increases the likelihood of divorce. Given the toll it can take on a marriage, here are some steps to take if you believe your spouse has an issue [...]
