While it may be counterintuitive, legal and logistics often lead spouses to live together after they have decided on getting a divorce. Obviously, this situation can be complicated and lead to uncomfortable feelings. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips for get through living together during divorce:1. Create boundariesTo manage in [...]
You benefit in obvious ways if your kids have chores because you have help with keeping the house clean. Just as importantly, your kids benefit from chores. A recent study showed that 82% of parents had chores when they were young, but only 28% of them require their own kids to do chores. However, when [...]
Many people feel that they lose friends after a divorce. They think their friends either “chose” one partner or feel that the friendship disappeared during the divorce process. These feelings can create awkward situations. People often avoid awkward situations, so if you want to have any chance of maintaining those friendships, you will have to [...]
Technology and social media have changed all aspects of our lives, and divorce is no different. There are both legal and emotional reasons to be cautious of social media during divorce. I’m not saying you have to be completely unplugged, as appealing as that may sound at times, but to be aware of potential consequences [...]
Many people feel that they lose friends after a divorce. They think their friends either “chose” one partner or feel that the friendship disappeared during the divorce process. These feelings can create awkward situations. People often avoid awkward situations, so if you want to have any chance of maintaining those friendships, you will have to [...]
Whether or not you like Valentine’s Day, it’s a hard “holiday” to ignore. We are inundated with ads about romance and material expressions of love, including chocolate and jewelry. If you find yourself dreading the day now that you are divorced, here are some tips: • Check in with yourself. Be honest with yourself about [...]
I’ve seen many couples enter couples therapy as a last ditch effort to save their marriage. These efforts rarely succeed, not because the couples lack the right intent, but because the structure and process of couples therapy isn’t designed to answer their primary question: Do I want to be in this marriage at all? For [...]
If you are like most people, then your resolve to fulfill your resolutions starts to decrease by the 3rd week of January. Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Then take advice from literature on relapse prevention regarding steps you can take to get back on track with your goals. Everyone gets derailed, [...]
People going through divorce experience strong emotions. Among other things, they may feel angry, hurt, disappointed and scared. These feelings are normal and a natural part of mourning the loss of a marriage and the future you imagined. While it’s completely normal to feel these emotions, it’s important that you don’t allow them to overwhelm you. [...]
The New Year is a time to evaluate our lives and set new goals. It’s like those school notebooks in September: a fresh clean start where anything is possible. And yet, this process of starting over can be enormously frustrating. How often do we make New Year’s resolutions that fall by the wayside before the [...]
