Healing from a divorce takes time, but time alone will not be enough. You also have to actively care for yourself in order to truly heal. I often talk about self-care as a component of my blog and this post will look at caring for yourself using both internal and external resources.Physical: Physically caring for [...]
Being mentally healthy and getting through difficult times requires the support of our family and friends. Yet, too often, we find ourselves feeling judged by these very people. I want you to take charge of creating a supportive community so that you have those positive connections, in both good and difficult times. Here are some [...]
Most divorces occur within the first couple years of marriage as couples realize they are not compatible or within 5-10 years of marriage, often due to the stress of young children. However, divorce after the age of 50 and divorce of long term marriages has increased. When you have been married for decades, you have [...]
We know from literature about children and divorce that one of the best predictors of a child’s outcome after the divorce is a good relationship with both parents (assuming there are no issues of abuse or neglect). So, how can you help keep your child’s view of his/her other parent positive? Here are some tips:Don’t [...]
This guest blog piece was originally written for Make It Better: www.makeitbetter.netThis column often focuses on how to keep marriage hot, but the truth is not all women are in relationships that will last. This time of year—January through March—is known as “divorce season” because it’s when most couples file for dissolution of marriage in [...]
Now is the time of year when many people make New Year’s resolutions. Unfortunately, we’ve also reached the time of year where many people have already given up on their resolutions. I want to share with you a theory of change that was developed by Prochaska and DiClemente in the late 70s when they were [...]
No matter how unhappy your marriage has been or how determined you are to seek a divorce, tell your spouse that you want a divorce is a difficult conversation. It will be emotional and painful, regardless of whether divorce has been discussed in the past or if it’s the first time they will be hearing [...]
For anyone with a daughter under the age of 10, “Let It Go” is synonymous with the Frozen, the hit Disney film. However, it’s also a useful mantra for adults concerning New Year’s resolutions.We make all kinds of New Year’s resolutions. We may say that we’ll start exercising or lose weight. Maybe we’ll spend less [...]
Many people feel that they lose friends after a divorce. They think their friends either “chose” one partner or feel that the friendship disappeared during the divorce process. These feelings can create awkward situations. People often avoid awkward situations, so if you want to have any chance of maintaining those friendships, you will have to [...]
The first holiday season after a divorce is bound to have some challenges for both you and your children. Thankfully, there are some things you can do to help your family survive the season and make the holidays more enjoyable.Acknowledge your child's feelings. Your child may feel sad or even angry about the divorce and [...]
