It is all too common for kids to refuse, at some point, to go to one parent’s house for parenting time. If the issue is abuse, neglect or parent mental illness/substance abuse, this issue requires much more professional involvement (therapists, possibly lawyers). However, there are some steps you and your co-parent can take to address [...]
A handful of people may think their parents had an amazing marriage, while many more think it had both positive and negative qualities and some don’t see much they want to replicate in their own relationships. Even if your parents had a good enough marriage, strategies that worked for them still may not be right [...]
Many people are shell-shocked after a divorce and can’t imagine dating again while others want to jump right back into the dating world. I don’t think of it as a matter of the amount of time that’s passed, but rather have you taken the following steps: Really understanding why the marriage ended: It’s easy to blame [...]
This blog is for people who consider themselves religious, spiritual and/or are interested in exploring that path as a result of the pain of divorce. Divorce can be a great personal challenge. Similar to other difficult times, people can often find comfort in a sense of faith or spirituality. As you work to heal from your [...]
Taking care of yourself physically is extremely important when you are going through and healing from the divorce process. Divorce is physically, emotionally and financially depleting – even when it’s something you chose and wanted to happen. When you are stressed out, making decisions and coping can be compromised. Caring for yourself physically provides a [...]
Inside Out, the latest movie from Disney/Pixar, is one of the best-reviewed movies of the summer. After seeing it with my kids, it’s easy to see why it’s received so many accolades. It’s a visually captivating film that is both funny and heartfelt. As a psychologist, I see that it can provide special value to [...]
We can both want and fear the same thing. This can lead us to sabotage our relationships. Usually this is not a conscious process, but rather a pattern engaged in over many different relationships. People can fear any number of things in a relationship, such as intimacy, commitment or abandonment, just to name a few. [...]
Divorce can leave everyone feeling unsettled. Helping your kids find their footing during and after the divorce is a priority. One of the best predictors of a child’s healthy adjustment to divorce is a close relationship with both parents. One of the ways you can maintain (or develop) that closeness is to have one on [...]
Everyone hears the phrase “You need to get out of your comfort zone!” I wanted to share with you why it matters to get out of your comfort zone, but also why it matters to stay in at times. Your comfort zone is what is familiar to you – your routines and habits. Your comfort [...]
Going through a divorce is a stressful process and when it’s over, you’ll want to re-establish a sense of peace for yourself and for your family. It’s easy to stay focused on the anger and the post-divorce struggles. However, with intentional effort, you can shift your focus to creating peace and stability with these tips: Self-care. [...]
