We can both want and fear the same thing. This can lead us to sabotage our relationships. Usually this is not a conscious process, but rather a pattern engaged in over many different relationships. People can fear any number of things in a relationship, such as intimacy, commitment or abandonment, just to name a few. [...]
Divorce can leave everyone feeling unsettled. Helping your kids find their footing during and after the divorce is a priority. One of the best predictors of a child’s healthy adjustment to divorce is a close relationship with both parents. One of the ways you can maintain (or develop) that closeness is to have one on [...]
Everyone hears the phrase “You need to get out of your comfort zone!” I wanted to share with you why it matters to get out of your comfort zone, but also why it matters to stay in at times. Your comfort zone is what is familiar to you – your routines and habits. Your comfort [...]
Going through a divorce is a stressful process and when it’s over, you’ll want to re-establish a sense of peace for yourself and for your family. It’s easy to stay focused on the anger and the post-divorce struggles. However, with intentional effort, you can shift your focus to creating peace and stability with these tips: Self-care. [...]
Going through a divorce is a stressful process and when it’s over, you’ll want to re-establish a sense of peace for yourself and for your family. It’s easy to stay focused on the anger and the post-divorce struggles. However, with intentional effort, you can shift your focus to creating peace and stability with these tips: Self-care. [...]
It’s easy to find websites devoted to expensive and elaborate ways to keep your children entertained over the summer. I want to encourage you to embrace the boredom because it’s actually good for your kids! A while ago, I blogged about a study that showed how many adults would prefer an electrical shock to being [...]
Many people feel wary of trusting others after a divorce; perhaps it was the events leading up to the divorce, or maybe it was the divorce process itself. No matter what the reason, it can be a struggle to trust again. Some of the issue lies in trusting others, but it can also be hard [...]
Everyone goes through difficult times and having the support of a good friend during those struggles is priceless. Many events can feel overwhelming, including the death of a loved one, divorce and a serious illness. You can help your friend through a hardship in the following ways:Acknowledge their struggle. Too often, people disappear during a [...]
It is not uncommon for one party to want to divorce and that party's spouse to want to work on the marriage. In this blog post, I’m going to talk about steps you can take to communicate this to your partner. As a disclaimer: This is not legal advice, nor is it the recommended path [...]
I’ve written in my previous posts how to tell your kids that you're getting a divorce. What I want to focus on in this blog, is what to tell and not tell your kids about the specifics of why you are getting the divorce. Although the content will vary by age and emotional development, there [...]
