Flip on the TV at time this year and you’re likely to find some program or movie showing the ideal family Thanksgiving-- loving family, perfectly set table, and laughter and good cheer all around. You can also find holiday cheer on Facebook or Instagram. Perhaps nowhere else in American culture is there a bigger gap [...]
The Myth: Self-care is selfishIn my work, I encounter many people, especially women, who feel selfish for taking time for their own care. This thought fails to see the difference between being selfish and self-care. Being selfish is thinking only of your needs at the expense of the well-being of someone else or even yourself. [...]
Preschool age children (ages 3-5) tend to be the most vulnerable age group in terms of adjustment to divorce, but there are concrete things parents can do to smooth the transition.. This stage of child development creates challenges that parents need to consider as part of their divorce process. Parents can help their preschoolers navigate [...]
I love the Franklin P. Jones quote, “Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they are going to catch you in next!” Consistency matters a great deal in parenting. Ensuring that you and your spouse are on the same page in how you raise your children will make life easier for your family. Why [...]
About one-third of all divorces occur within the first five years of marriage and those are often the years when people are starting families. There are unique aspects of toddler development (18 months – 3 years) that need to be understood and recognized when couples are divorcing. Follow these guidelines to smooth the transition for [...]
Managing divorce is always complicated when children are involved. Having a child that is an infant adds an additional layer of complexity. Infants can’t verbally communicate their feelings. Also, this period is a time when they are developing an attachment to their primary caregiver-- the relationship that will be foundation for all future relationships. Divorcing [...]
When a couple comes to me for divorce advice, one of their primary concerns – after ensuring that the kids are okay – is making sure they don’t go broke in the process. The good news is how much you spend on your divorce is completely within your control – you just have to be [...]
How do you typically communicate with your spouse? Do you burst into tears when you and your husband fight, just so he’ll give in and comfort you? Do you pout, sulk, or shut down until you get your way? Do you yell, berate, or nag him until he does what you asked? Although these techniques [...]
When parents reach the painful decision to divorce, their first concern – without fail – is how to tell the children. Deciding how to tell your children about divorce will not be easy, but with the right research, preparation, and attitude it can be done in a loving, supportive, and healthy way. To make sure [...]
When most people think of divorce, they envision an excruciating court battle with both sides flanked by teams of lawyers seeking to win everything at all costs. And while this is certainly what divorce ends up looking like for some families, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the case for yours.No matter which way you [...]
