No matter how unhappy your marriage has been or how determined you are to seek a divorce, tell your spouse that you want a divorce is a difficult conversation. It will be emotional and painful, regardless of whether divorce has been discussed in the past or if it’s the first time they will be hearing [...]
For anyone with a daughter under the age of 10, “Let It Go” is synonymous with the Frozen, the hit Disney film. However, it’s also a useful mantra for adults concerning New Year’s resolutions.We make all kinds of New Year’s resolutions. We may say that we’ll start exercising or lose weight. Maybe we’ll spend less [...]
Many people feel that they lose friends after a divorce. They think their friends either “chose” one partner or feel that the friendship disappeared during the divorce process. These feelings can create awkward situations. People often avoid awkward situations, so if you want to have any chance of maintaining those friendships, you will have to [...]
The first holiday season after a divorce is bound to have some challenges for both you and your children. Thankfully, there are some things you can do to help your family survive the season and make the holidays more enjoyable.Acknowledge your child's feelings. Your child may feel sad or even angry about the divorce and [...]
I saw a story on the Today Show about a mom that had “cancelled” Christmas in response to the entitled attitude she saw from her kids. While that approach may be a bit severe, most parents I know struggle to balance their desire to give their kids a good experience with their desire to avoid [...]
When I meet with divorcing parents, they often talk about how guilty they feel about putting their kids through divorce. They worry about the impact of that the divorce will have on these kids and how unfair it is that their kids will suffer for the actions of their parents.While these feelings are understandable and [...]
Flip on the TV at time this year and you’re likely to find some program or movie showing the ideal family Thanksgiving-- loving family, perfectly set table, and laughter and good cheer all around. You can also find holiday cheer on Facebook or Instagram. Perhaps nowhere else in American culture is there a bigger gap [...]
Trust in the divorce process is a rare commodity. As a divorce coach, the most common use of the word “trust” that I hear comes in some form of “I don’t trust him.” or “I will never trust her again.”In certain cases, building trust between the two parties may not be possible. In instances where [...]
One of the more challenging aspects of getting a divorce is figuring how to tell people about it. Most people have a wide range of relationships—from casual acquaintances to close friends and family—and trying to find the right time and way to inform them about this major life change can be difficult.In most cases, since [...]
You may have heard the statistic that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. What’s important to note is this statistic does not mean that 50% of all people that get married end up getting divorced. Divorce rates are higher for people that get remarried—meaning that second, third and more marriages have higher divorce rates [...]
