I saw a story on the Today Show about a mom that had “cancelled” Christmas in response to the entitled attitude she saw from her kids. While that approach may be a bit severe, most parents I know struggle to balance their desire to give their kids a good experience with their desire to avoid [...]
When I meet with divorcing parents, they often talk about how guilty they feel about putting their kids through divorce. They worry about the impact of that the divorce will have on these kids and how unfair it is that their kids will suffer for the actions of their parents.While these feelings are understandable and [...]
Flip on the TV at time this year and you’re likely to find some program or movie showing the ideal family Thanksgiving-- loving family, perfectly set table, and laughter and good cheer all around. You can also find holiday cheer on Facebook or Instagram. Perhaps nowhere else in American culture is there a bigger gap [...]
Trust in the divorce process is a rare commodity. As a divorce coach, the most common use of the word “trust” that I hear comes in some form of “I don’t trust him.” or “I will never trust her again.”In certain cases, building trust between the two parties may not be possible. In instances where [...]
One of the more challenging aspects of getting a divorce is figuring how to tell people about it. Most people have a wide range of relationships—from casual acquaintances to close friends and family—and trying to find the right time and way to inform them about this major life change can be difficult.In most cases, since [...]
You may have heard the statistic that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. What’s important to note is this statistic does not mean that 50% of all people that get married end up getting divorced. Divorce rates are higher for people that get remarried—meaning that second, third and more marriages have higher divorce rates [...]
For a long time, therapists have noticed a growth in mental health issues among students. This anecdotal observation was recently confirmed by the National College Health Assessment (NCHA), a nationally recognized research survey that collects data about students’ health habits, behaviors and perceptions. Some of the statistics from the NCHA’s most recent survey of college [...]
People have all kinds of reactions to the length of the divorce process: “I just want to get this over with quickly.” This is taking forever.” “I don’t want this divorce and it is moving way too fast.” In my experience, the two things that determine how long a divorce takes are the process and [...]
Remember that all children need extra support when their parents are divorcing. Divorce is a major life change for a child that takes place over a period of time and requires ongoing support. Here are three ways you can support your child:Be available. We cannot predict how or when a child will respond to divorce. [...]
People going through divorce experience strong emotions. Among other things, they may feel angry, hurt, disappointed and scared. These feelings are normal and a natural part of mourning the loss of a marriage and the future you imagined. While it’s completely normal to feel these emotions, it’s important that you don’t allow them to overwhelm you. [...]
